What I have been doing, however, is loving kids. And loving kids is so much more than doing things for them. In fact, sometimes it means not doing things for them. Before I went to Haiti, I was thinking I would show the Haitians how much I love them by doing stuff, by "working". But after a few boring days, some days filled with supervising the library, and generally just being with the kids, I'm discovering lots of other ways to love them, not just through what I generally think of as "work". Loving by teaching. Loving by learning their language and culture. Loving by admitting my faults. Loving just through living in community with them.
So while I still believe work is a powerful way to show love, there are many other ways that love is "made visible" and many of those have been more prevalent in my work at the orphanage than what we might typically consider "work". For all of us, we have some many more chances to show love than just by the "work" that we do. So, with that, I'm just going to amputate the first two words from my blog title. I think that will make it a little more accurate.
On the topic of love, a few weeks ago, I taught a Bible study with the kids on 1 Corinthians 13. If you've ever gone to a Christian wedding, chances are good you've heard this passage before, particularly v. 4-7. It talks about what love is, and what it is not. Interestingly enough, it doesn't say, "love is hard-working." It is, however, lots of other things.
Jamie, I really like your reflections here! I agree that love is many things besides visible work. Sometimes it's internal "work" I suppose. But these are great thoughts about your time in Haiti. I hope it gives you clarity when you go back. It reminds me of how taking Sabbath is faithful.
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Nothing like a little distance to aid reflection! Sounds like your definitions of work and love are undergoing revision.
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What's interesting about this post to me, is that it is reflective on what I learned about being a spouse and a parent, which has plenty of tasks, but lots of time when you are just with your family. Then you really have to practice (often not successfully) being patient, kind, not being easily angered, not keeping a record of wrongs, rejoicing in truth and always persevering. Thanks for this reminder!
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